DEAR ABBY: I don’t know what to do about my 18-year-old niece. She walks round the home in her underwear. She’s been doing it for the final two or three years. It wouldn’t matter, I suppose, if it had been simply in entrance of quick household residing there, however she additionally does it in entrance of workmen, the cleansing ladies, answering the door, going out to get the mail, and so on. I’m actually disgusted. I spoke to my brother (her father) briefly about it. His response was, “She lives right here.” Is there something I can do or say to get her to maintain herself a bit of higher lined?
— MODEST IN MASSACHUSETTS
DEAR MODEST: Sure, there may be. If her household doesn’t object to her strolling round the home in her underwear, that’s their prerogative. However “somebody” ought to remind your niece that doing it in entrance of workmen, family workers and the mail provider is DISRESPECTFUL TO THEM. How their neighbors really feel about it’s anybody’s guess, but when she’s constructed like Jennifer Lopez or one of many Kardashians, they might be having fun with the view.
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DEAR ABBY: My buddy is all the time sending me pics of meals and drinks he thinks look appetizing. The issue is, the minimize of steak he normally eats is affordable and unhealthy-looking. I attempt to inform him that better-quality meat typically has much less fats and ldl cholesterol, however he tunes me out. He drinks a variety of wine, too, and I don’t assume that’s good both. I’m making an attempt to assist him as a result of I’m involved about his well being. He’s 56 and has gained a variety of weight. How can I preserve him from a cardiovascular emergency?
— HEALTHIER EATER
DEAR HEALTHIER: Your buddy is an grownup. You possibly can’t “preserve him” from doing something. As a result of he isn’t open to your useful recommendations and the photographs make you upset, give up them. Settle for that when he makes the choice to vary his consuming and ingesting habits, the motivation has to come back from inside (or from his physician). You might be able to lead by instance and persuade him to train with you. When you do, be sure you begin SLOWLY.
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DEAR ABBY: I dwell in a really small city the place all people is aware of all the pieces. I personal my dwelling and attend a church with a small congregation. When a meals pantry opened, I reluctantly started entering into to complement my meals finances. The volunteers are all locals, and I do know a lot of them. One girl, who additionally attends my church, volunteers there as effectively. This girl has adopted a smirk and a tough stare in my course when she sees me now. Whereas I work exhausting at not caring about what folks assume, it is a powerful one. How ought to I deal with her?
— SHAMED IN NORTH CAROLINA
DEAR SHAMED: Deal with it by discussing it with whoever has organized and manages that meals financial institution. Additionally point out it to your pastor. If the church member is behaving as you say she is, she must be advised to cease embarrassing you, as a result of it’s unchristian and uncalled-for.
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Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.